How to End an Affair Without Angering Your Partner

I’ve had to break off a relationship with my booty calls for different reasons. One of the girls became to clingy so I had to get rid of her. The sex with a recent woman I was hooking up with became boring. Another one just wasn’t available as often as I would have liked. There are plenty of other reasons a married man will get rid of his girl on the side.


Regardless of your reason for no longer wanting to continue the affair, getting rid of her isn’t as easy as you might think. You usually can’t just pick up the phone and say, “hey, I can’t sleep with you anymore, have a nice life”. This might not be acceptable to her. You’re going to have to plan it out and let her go gently. Or you could find yourself in a heap of trouble.

 No longer wanting to continue the affair

No longer wanting to continue the affair

It’s not like firing an employee…

Most firings are bitter, angry discussions. The employees walks in your office, and you tell him he sucks at his job and to get the fuck out. You can’t do that when “firing” a fling. She could become angry and then go rat on you to your wife. Plus, it’s just plain rude. No real gentleman would do that. Have a little decency. And don’t risk getting caught.

Don’t risk getting caught

Don’t risk getting caught

Gently let her go

Call her up and tell her to meet you for some drinks. Don’t break things off over the phone. That’s the bitch way to do it. Take her out for dinner or drinks. This is a good way to butter her up and put her in a good mood. Gently let her know that you have to stop seeing her for whatever reason you have. Be honest with her. There’s no need to lie, unless your reasoning is that she sucks in bed. No one wants to be told they’re a lousy fuck. In that case, come up with something else. The following is a good example of how the discussion should go…

I just want to first tell you that I’ve had an awesome time with you. The sex has been amazing and you’ve given me what I was looking for. But we need to have a discussion.”

(she’ll probably ask you if you brought her there to tell her you can have sex anymore)

The sex has been amazing

The sex has been amazing

To be honest, I just don’t feel right about this relationship. I needed something more. Something I wasn’t get from my wife. But, in the end, what I’m doing is wrong and I can’t continue this. I hope you don’t hate me. I really enjoyed our time together and I wish you nothing but the best.”
Smooth. Honest. Friendly. Perfect!