What Women on Affair Dating Sites Look for in a Man

I contacted a bunch of different types of women on AshleyMadison.com to ask them questions about what they are looking for in a man. I was fortunate enough to convince 6 of them to answer my questions. Their responses may surprise you a bit. Some of the qualities they look for in a hookup are probably different than what you may have expected. All 6 of the women were married, in their late 20’s to mid 30’s, attractive, and have had sex with at least one man they met on AshleyMadison.com. Here is a list of the questions I asked…

  • How important is physical attraction and does personality even matter?
  • What other qualities do you look for in a man?
  • Who should pay for the expenses associated with the affair?

On the importance of looks versus personality…

All 6 women admitted that looks do matter to an extent. But it was a bit surprising when they all stated that looks weren’t all that important. I can understand looks not mattering a lot in a committed, emotional relationship, but it was strange hearing from attractive women on a hookup site that looks were still less important than personality. However, the type of personality they are looking for is different than what you would find on a relationship-based dating site.

Attractive women on a hookup

Attractive women on a hookup

They all wanted a man with a strong, confident, dominant personality. They don’t want to hookup with a wimpy, unconfident puss. They don’t care if you’re into sports, movies, traveling, etc. They just want to know that you have your shit together and are into pleasing a woman as much as you are into being pleased. That’s understandable. After all, this is a 2-way relationship.

On the other qualities they’re looking for…

The #1 additional quality these women are looking for is availability. A few of them had mentioned they met guys that were never available to hookup. They want a man that will be able to give it up when they need it. I mentioned that sometimes married men have to cancel plans, and they agreed, but said as long as it’s not a regular occurrence.

Other qualities they look for is good hygiene, well groomed, and a man that smells nice. Wearing nice cologne, being clean shaven or having trimmed facial hair, and wearing nice clothes is a major turn-on to them.

A few of them had mentioned they met guys that were never available to hookup

A few of them had mentioned they met guys that were never available to hookup

On who should pay for the affair…

All 6 women agreed that the man should pay for everything – including drinks – on the first night. But they all agreed that the woman should occasionally cover the expenses to be fair to the man. They all understood that it’s difficult for a man to continually pay for hotel expenses and hide it from their spouse. Which is why they agreed the woman should help pay at times.

On the first night

On the first night